The long-term Process
Renewed matriarchal rule and the realizing of ‘self,’ as idealized by Horney, ‘framed’ by Goffmanand ‘figurated’ by Elias as ‘individualization,’ is a belief that stillprevails. We have similar ‘inner,’ toddler-conflicts. If you do not believe thetheory of matriarchal history, we have all been infants and were weaker thanthe mums that ‘disciplined us and forced our super-ego and ‘conscience’ ontous, when we (were) considered part of her, by her. We know how ‘confident’women can ‘try’ men (and women), by ordering a ‘new’ rule to a bubble, to testcompettitors deference to it. It seems many actually want to comply toa‘beauty.’What is it? Repetitious identification.
Recognition of our early mechanisms of identificationand projection causes this ‘individualization’ and bubblification in the longterm, not the strictness of our superegos or ‘civilization’ per se,which are two sides of the same coin (see 1936, Anna Freud, next from p. 37).
It may also have been so that women have been moreobsessive analysts than men and therefore easier to control by men who feign todo what ‘their’ women wish and who are simply being manipulative with ‘woke’stances in discussions, while doing what they want for themselves, as women donow, more often. It (this power and deference is probably changing ‘sides,’ oflate.
People are pressured a lot from infancy on, to adhereto all these yes-and-no-nos, do’s and don’ts, the naming and shaming. Theyrepresent ‘tradition.’ We crave for ‘freedom,’ of this ‘caring’ andimperative relation, but do not understand of what or from when or from whom.It is either instinct already present during infancy, or what inhibited itssatisfaction and gratification. That struggle is not ‘individualization,’because that could only mean struggling against one another, for pride, food,drink, shelter, like we expected, and often got, as infants. The identificationsand projections, are these ‘interdependencies,’ which make us reinventthem, with the applying affects and anxieties. The types of possibleidentifications are rather limited, according to Anna Freud (’36, Add. Ip26+), in their infantile scope of identifications and/or projections,positive or negative and passively or actively: our ‘figurated frames,’societies, communities and ‘groups’: religious, ‘ethnic,’ ‘academic’ and statelyones too. ‘Choices’ forced on us in ‘education’ are the scope of bubblesand ‘figurations.’ Its assumed ‘leaders’ are expected to be totalitarianas ‘kings,’ or the ‘figuration,’ ‘bubble,’ church, state, club, familystatus and‘identity’ can fall apart, by our undoing, if not ‘mended’ or ‘healed’by an excuse.
We worry about sovereignty of our county or city,which cannot be actors, angry or disgusted. We react to this, sometimes, with:‘populism,’but nobody known as ‘populist’ calls himself a populist.
The stigma comes by gossip: Social identification isrecognition of ones identifications by the situational ‘group’ and theadaptation to the advertised one of seven possible and recognized identificationstances: m/f//l/g/b/t/q, including the two ‘straight’ bubbles and ’clouds,’which we’re not too conscious of and never lacks ambivalence. The recurringmechanism of roles and consciences ‘force’ us to comply, to one of theseperceived and recognized ‘bubbles,’ to advertise them as ‘dispositions,’ inany family or ‘setting,’ that will accept them, as we’ll have to accept them.We confirm and enforce each-others and our own toddler-choices. There’s morethan you might think (me too), if in their toddler-time (eudipal phase), theyrejected their sexual satisfactions, which would make them neurotics, or ifthey either regressed to their oral or annal phase, according to Freud, S(1915-7) New Lectures on psychoanalysis (see add. I, pp 22+).
Beauvoir, S (1949-58) observed: ‘Thelesbian first plays at being a man, thus being lesbian itself becomes a game;A travestite goes from disguise to livery and the woman under the pretext offreeing herself from mans aggression, makes herself the slave of her personage.She did not want to confine herself to a womans situation and she imprisonsherself in that of the lesbian. Nothing gives a worse impression ofsmall-mindedness and mutilation than these claims of ‘liberated’ women. Itmust be declared: Many women declare themselves homosexual out ofself-interest.